Category: Marriage/Family

Parental Love, Transforming Love

George Eliot’s Silas Marner offers a snapshot of England in transition between agrarianism and industry, one that intimates the impending decline of aristocracy while also remaining firmly in a world where station matters. But the novel’s most enduring lessons flow from the way Eliot treats love—and the way it can change our character. The story centers on a lonely weaver adopting a young girl and being transformed by his love for her. Contemporary readers will find in its pages a sharp contrast to our individualism and relative freedom of movement. They may also find themselves questioning the relative importance our society places on children.

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Can a Happier Spouse Help You Live Longer?

My husband Don is generally a pretty cheerful guy. He has a great network of friends, takes good care of himself, and does work that is meaningful to him.

Certainly, Don’s happy disposition is a boon for me, as his happiness makes our relationship run more smoothly. But could it have any impact on my health—perhaps even extending my life? A new study by Olga Stavrova of Tilburg University in the Netherlands looked at that very question.

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U.S. fertility hits its lowest rate ever

The U.S. fertility rate has now hit the lowest ever figures in American history, according to newly released provisional data from the Centers for Disease Control. The figures show a further 2% drop from 1.7655 children per woman in 2017 to 1.728 children per women in 2018.

The rate is again well under the normal “replacement rate” of 2.1 children per woman over the course of her life. The continued decline means that demographers are losing hope that the rate will increase because women who might have been delaying having children until later in life will “catch up”. Instead, it is increasingly looking like low birth rates are here to stay (fertility in the U.S. has been below the replacement rate since 1972).

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‘My Little Pony’ introduces ‘LGBTQ couple’ in children’s cartoon

The “My Little Pony” franchise is selling more than plastic toys to little girls.

A cartoon series based on the Hasbro company’s popular figurines aired an episode in which a same-sex female pony couple take charge of a school-aged pony named Scootaloo. Previously released in Europe, “The Last Crusade” was broadcast Saturday on the Discovery Channel.

In an interview with Buzzfeed News, writer-producer Michael Vogel said he and co-writer Nicole Dubuc were delighted to introduce a same-sex couple, “Aunt Holiday” and “Auntie Lofty,” to the children’s show.

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They’ve been in couples therapy for 17 years. Do they need a new therapist or a divorce?

If you’ve been in couples therapy for nearly two decades, does that mean you have a great therapist, or an ineffective one?

That’s a question raised by the recent revelation of pop singer Pink, who credits 17 years of couples therapy for keeping her marriage intact. “It’s the only reason we’re still together,” she said in an interview with “Today” show co-host Carson Daly.

Pink, whose real name is Alecia Beth Moore, didn’t say who her therapist is or how often they meet, but the length of time she and her husband have been in counseling significantly exceeds that of the typical married couple who seeks help.

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Bermuda to Have First Pride March After Legalizing Gay Marriage

Bermuda will have the first Pride event in the territory’s history after gay marriage was legalized there last year.

Bermuda’s first Pride march is slated to take place Aug. 31, nearly a year after the British island territory again legalized same-sex marriage.

The Supreme Court had legalized gay marriage in May 2017, but Bermuda became the first national territory in the world last February to repeal its gay marriage legislation.

Supporters of the Pride event called it a “huge step” forward for the LGBTQ community there, according to the Royal Gazette.

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How Working Parents Can Make Family Meals Happen

As a working mother or father, it’s one of the questions you dread most. And it comes every day, right around 3:00 PM: “So, umm…..what are we doing about dinner?”

Whether the question comes in a text from your partner or whether it pops into your head during the marketing meeting, you reflexively cringe, because dinnertime is one of the danger zones of working parenthood, where the strains of your dual role feel the most acute.

Why? Because what presents as a straightforward, practical problem — meal prep — is actually a psychological, emotional, and even physical one, too, and it hits working parents when we’re the most vulnerable. Exhausted at the end of a long workday and overwhelmed by everything else we have to do, it’s easy to turn to restaurant meals and convenience-food options — which, let’s face it, won’t do your health any favors.

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